Caring for persons with dementia can be demanding and it takes time and patience. Caregivers often have to make changes to their own lives and make sacrifices by giving up many things that the rest of us take for granted. These changes and sacrifices can be stressful and can affect the caregivers’ health and well being. To continue to provide good care for their loved ones, caregivers may need to acknowledge that they cannot do everything alone – and need your help and support.

Do you know someone who cares for a loved one with dementia?

The following signs may indicate that they are experiencing caregiver stress.

• Easily irritated
• Small mistakes make them angry
• Not interested in socialising with family and friends
• Verbally expressed how they could give up their caregiving roles
• Complained of sleeplessness, exhaustion or hopelessness
• Not able to concentrate
• In poor health

How can you help family members or friends who are caring for persons with dementia?

Caregivers of persons with dementia may neglect their physical and emotional health in the caregiving process. This can lead to problems such as poor health which would affect their ability to provide care. It is vital that their needs are understood and taken care of too. A good support system of concerned family members and friends can make a big difference. Here are some of the ways you can help:

• Provide information. Giving articles, brochures, videos and audio CDs on dementia can add to caregivers’ knowledge of the illness and help them be better carers, adjust and cope with their roles better.
• Offer your help. Caregivers may not readily ask for help or assistance. Volunteer your help when you have the time. For example, caregivers of persons with dementia spend most of their time providing care. Offer to run errands for them such as buying groceries.
• Spend time. Caregivers may need someone to share their feelings and concerns with. Be there for them when they need it.
• Introduce community support systems. Caregivers do not need to manage alone. Encourage them to join support groups and use available community services. Meeting people who know exactly what they are going through is a good source of comfort and reassurance.
• Little gifts of thoughtfulness. Provide some cheer to caregivers. Break their routine by making them feel that their efforts are appreciated. Little gifts such as a diary or journal to write down their thoughts or sharing with them a nutritious homecooked meal can brighten their day.
• Suggest they see a doctor. Caregivers of persons with dementia may complain of headaches, back pains, mood changes, problems with sleep and concentration. These are the symptoms of stress and/or depression. Encourage them to consult a doctor before their condition worsens.

Caring for loved ones with dementia can be demanding and yet rewarding at the same time. Family and friends who care for loved ones with dementia need attention and support. Offering time and providing practical assistance could help them cope with their roles as caregivers and allow them to feel the appreciation and fulfillment that they deserve.